Hi everyone! I’m Carol, an online dating coach and professor. It’s my passion to help people through the online dating process and beyond.
I met the love of my life on an online dating site (see the About page for more information about that), so I know all about if from both a personal and professional perspective.And I am living proof that online dating can work! If you want to know my full story, click here to read more about my own personal journey.
And since you’re reading this blog, it tells me that you are frustrated enough to want to find an online dating coach to help you find the love or your life too, right?
So, let’s dive right in!
First of all, I want you know that we’ve all been there – wanting to find love, but it’s just not happening. You scratch your head and wonder why it’s so difficult. After all, the movies and TV shows all make it look so easy, right? Heck, even the prostitute in the classic movie, Pretty Woman, found a billionaire to love and they lived happily ever after.
So why isn’t it happening for you?
Just so know, you are NOT alone. There are countless singles in the world who feel exactly the same way you do. In fact, I used to be one of them too – before I figured how to do it right.
You might be young and want to find someone to marry and have a family with. Or, you might be newly divorced and have no idea where to start to find your next relationship.
Either way, you could probably use some help. And that’s why you should consider working with an online dating coach.
You might be thinking… a dating coach? Why do I need one of those? And where do I even find one? Where do I even look? Do need a dating coach near me, or can I find one anywhere?
There are so many questions you probably want answered before you decide to hire a dating coach. So, let’s just start by talking about why you would even need a dating coach at all.
***Side Note: If you’re more of a video kind of person than a reader, you can check out my interview with Dr. Steven Cangiano right here. I explain all about the online dating coaching process.***
Many people might think that working with an online dating coach signifies some sort of “weakness” on their part. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! It’s actually a sign of strength to admit that you could use a little help.
Let’s start with some common reasons that people seek out working with me.
Too little time.
You are most likely a very busy person! You have a demanding career, and at the end of the day, the last thing you want to do is go looking online for someone to date. That’s what your coach can do for you. You can just sit back and relax while they do all the work.
Unfocused about who you’re looking for.
You might not have a clue about who you think you should be dating. You might think you do, but a coach will really help you get clear on the RIGHT type of person you should be going after.
Bad online profile.
Not everyone is good at writing an online dating profile. I admit – it’s not easy! And that’s okay. If you’re not getting people to respond to your messages, let a dating coach re-write it and see how your success improves.
You’re shy or have awkward social skills.
Hey, not everyone can be an extrovert or the life of the party! And that’s perfectly fine. Just because you’re shy or might have a hard time making small talk, calming your nerves, or choosing date activities doesn’t mean you can’t have a great dating life. Let a coach help you with that.
The opposite sex confuses you.
I know, I know, people can be confusing! Men are women are quite different, and if you’re having a hard time reading the opposite sex or figuring them out, then a dating coach can help you with that as well.
You have low self-confidence.
People are attracted to confidence, and if you feel like you don’t have much of that, a dating coach can certainly help you work on yourself and project a better image on a date.
You’ve never had a long-term relationship.
Maybe you’ve never even had a relationship before, and you don’t know where to start. A dating coach is a wealth of knowledge about what a healthy and happy relationship looks like, and they can teach you.
You found a match and want to keep him or her.
Maybe you were lucky enough to find a great person, but you’re afraid you’re going to blow it with them. A dating coach can be there for you every step of the way to make sure you do the right things.
Now that we know why you probably need an online dating coach, let’s look at why you don’t necessarily need to look for one near you.
What is it Like Working with an Online Dating Coach?
The unknown is always scary. Even when you are excited about investing money in something like your love life, it is difficult to know whether you should actually take the step and make that commitment.
So, let’s talk about what it is actually like to work with a coach like me. I do different things so let’s take them one-by-one.
Here’s what I do:
Written review of your online dating profile.
Most people don’t know how to write an effective profile that will actually get them dates. So, if a client just wants me to give them tips about what to do differently, I provide a written review and suggestions for improvement.
Re-writing your online dating profile – or writing it for the first time if you are new to online dating.
If you aren’t the best writer and want me to re-write your profile for you, then I can do that too.
30-minute advice & coaching call… or Skype.
In this advice and coaching call, I will review your online dating profile if you have one. If you don’t, I will give you suggestions for how to create it. We will also discuss your dating and relationship goals as time provides.
Advice through email.
You can email me a question in as much detail as possible. I will then respond with a long, advice-filled email that gives you real-world advice and actions to take.
Advice and coaching through text.
This will give you real-time, on-the-spot advice whenever you need it. I give advice for anything! Even if you’re on a date and don’t know what to say or do in the moment.
One month of in-depth coaching.
When people are ready to dive deep with me, then they choose the one-month coaching package. This is what I do for you over the course of the month:
- Online dating profile writing
- Initial one-hour consultation by phone or Skype
- Managing your profile/Screening potential dates by interpreting their profiles (I point out the “red flags” you probably won’t see)
- Assistance with writing emails of introduction and all responses
- Guidance for first dates (locations, what to wear, topics to talk about, etc.)
- Continued guidance and coaching about what to do after the first date(s)
- One email consultation per day for 30 days
- This package works best if you grant me access to your profile so I can see who is contacting you, who you want to contact, and how you should communicate with each other.
- Package can be extended for as long as is needed, and a discount will be provided for continuing clients.
With the Invention of Skype, It’s no Longer Necessary to Work with a Dating Coach Near You
Technology has certainly transformed our everyday lives. You might not be old enough to remember a life without the internet, but then again you might be.
In the old days, if you wanted to find a dating coach, you probably would have to look in the yellow pages of the phone book, but you probably still wouldn’t find any listed. Even if you did, you would be limited to finding a dating coach near you.
But now, your options are limitless. You could live anywhere in the world and work with a dating coach halfway across the globe. Technology has made it so convenient. You could be sitting in your pajamas at home talking to your coach. How awesome is that?
You Should Find a Dating Coach Who Has What You Want (A Relationship, For Example)
If you were wanting to hire a financial investor, would you hire one with a low balance in their bank account? Of course not! You want to hire someone who really knows what they’re doing with money, right? And if they can’t do it for themselves, how can they do it for you?
The same is true for a dating coach. It’s best to find someone who has been through it and has had success.
I know some people who are dating coaches who have been happily married for 20 years. While that sounds great, if they have been with the same person that long, then they have no idea how the dating world has changed in the last couple of decades (especially online dating). And they have definitely never done online dating!
It’s almost impossible to give great advice about online dating to a client if a coach has never been through the process themselves.
While it’s great that they know what a successful marriage is like, they still don’t have the recent dating experience that some others do. As I just said, you want someone who has been through it themselves.
However, it’s not enough to just find a dating coach who has done dating and online dating with little or no success. Yes, it’s not easy to find “the one” online. But it’s definitely possible!
What I’m trying to say here is that you should ask questions about your coach before you hire them. Ask about their dating and relationship experience. Even if they’ve had failed relationships (as we all do), what have they learned from it? How do they use their successes and failures to help their clients?
The Bottom Line
If you have been considering the possibility of working with an online dating coach, hopefully I have given you enough reasons to actually pursue it. Everyone wants to find someone to spend their life with, and a coach can certainly maximize your odds of finding that special someone that you can spend happily ever after with.
And if you still prefer to work with an online dating coach near you, then that’s perfectly fine. But a virtual coach can offer you so many more advantages, just like the ones I discussed here. So, I suggest you go for it… what do you have to lose?
If you are ready to hire a coach, then I would LOVE to help YOU find your happily ever after! For more information about my coaching services, click here. Or click here to send me an email if you have any questions!
Wishing you love,