Let me take a poll here (a cyber-poll, of course ... and not a particularly accurate one since I am not counting your show of hands):
How many of you have high self-confidence?
Since this is the worst cyber-poll ever, I will just assume that not all of you raised your hand. Let’s face it, we live in a world that is not supportive of how we feel about ourselves. From comparing yourself to super models to thinking you need to make more money, most of us think we need to be better. Here’s the good news: you can raise your self-confidence and work on being a better person.
Here are 7 steps you can take today to make that happen...
1. Pay attention to how you talk to yourself.
Do you have any idea how many negative thoughts go through your mind every day about yourself? Probably not. Even if it’s just something simple like, “My hair looks terrible today,” you need to monitor and control your thoughts. So get a notebook and write down every negative thought that you say to yourself .. about yourself. After about a week, take a look. Then write down why each negative thought is NOT true.
2. Don’t compare yourself to others. But if you do, compare yourself to people who are not as lucky as you are.
If you constantly compare how you look to Angelina Jolie or your bank account to your millionaire cousin, you will definitely feel bad about yourself. So here’s an idea ‒ don’t do that!! Instead, focus on how lucky you are. If you have a roof over your head and food on the table, you are among the luckiest people in the world. Be grateful for what you have. Don’t complain about what you lack.
3. Don’t dwell on the past.
Maybe you did something in the past that you are ashamed of, like cheating on your significant other. Well, you can’t undo it. All you can do is forgive yourself, decide to do better, and move on. Replaying it and beating yourself up doesn’t work. Or maybe your past was “The Good Ol’ Days.” Don’t dwell there either. We all age, and we all have the opportunity to make today and tomorrow the best we can. Move onward and upwards. Not backwards.
4. Find a “self-esteem buddy” and support each other.
Anyone who has tried to change their habits knows it’s difficult. And your self-confidence is also a “habit” – it’s a habitual way of thinking about yourself. That's it. That's really all it is. So it helps to have someone point out when we are being negative and help us steer in the right direction. Sometimes we don’t even recognize when we are being down on ourselves because we do it so much. Your buddy will help you, and you can help them.
5. Separate your feelings from facts.
You might think you are overweight, but you might not be. For example, perhaps you are average weight, but you grew up with two older sisters who are naturally skinny (*ahem* yes, just like I did!). If you constantly compared yourself to them growing up, you might have labeled yourself as “fat.” However, those are only your feelings. The facts might be very different. You might only weigh 140 pounds...or more. That’s not necessarily overweight. Facts and feelings are different.
6. Use affirmations and visualization.
Affirmations and visualizations are powerful tools to reprogram your thinking. The more you repeat words or visualize something in your mind, the more your subconscious believes it. So repeat positive statements to yourself such as, “I am a good person. I am healthy. I am strong. I am lovable.” And then visualize yourself being and feeling that way.
7. Take action!
While I appreciate you all reading this blog, it will do you no good if you don’t actually take my advice! Don’t just share this on your Facebook page and forget about it. Do something! Take action! Nothing will change unless you do. It all starts with a decision. So just do it!
On another note, please join me and New Zealand life coach, Dan Munro, in our FREE WEBINAR this Saturday, August 23rd at 6:00 p.m. EST. It is about HAVING A CONFIDENT MINDSET and what to do when LIFE GETS ROUGH. Click here for more details!!!
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