Why You SHouldn't Paddle Upstream

I have a confession. I have some 'control issues.' But when I say 'control issues,' that doesn't mean that I like to control other people. We might all want to change people, but I have found through experience that it is just frustrating and exhausting. And - it doesn't work. 

The type of control I'm talking about is controlling my life. In other words, planning my life, setting my destination, taking action, and expecting to get where I planned to go. I can't tell you how many times that I have tried to plan things only to come up against a "locked door." You know what I'm talking about. It's a situation where no matter what you try, it just doesn't work out for some reason. 


Here's an example. For about a year now, I have been planning on creating some video courses. There are two websites in particular that are dedicated to selling video classes that people make themselves. So, I got the right camera. I got the right microphone. I got the right lighting. I even found someone to do the editing for me. But for some bizarre reason, whenever I submitted my 'test videos,' they always get turned down for one reason or another. Sometimes it's the background noise in the audio. Sometimes it's the lighting. But regardless of the reason, they always tell me it's not ready. One thing always happened though: I wanted to pull my hair out in frustration!!

Ohhhhh ... you have NO idea how crazy this made me! Suddenly I could relate to what it meant to "go postal." (don't worry, I have not really gone that crazy!! LOL) But after I a while, I took a break, stepped back and thought, "Hmmmm. I wonder if there is a reason that this isn't flowing right other than the fact that I'm a technological idiot?" I always teach people to not fight against life too much. And I always use the metaphor of pointing your "boat" downstream and going with the flow of the Universe. In other words ... don't paddle upstream. And as much as I hate to admit it, I wasn't taking my own advice. I was paddling upstream.  And it wasn't getting me anywhere.

Think about it. If you were in a canoe and you were trying to paddle upstream, would you get anywhere? No. Would you get tired, frustrated, and exhausted? Yes. So, really, what's the point? Just turn your boat around and aim it downstream. In other words ...

DON'T PADDLE UPSTREAM. 

Just don't do it.

So, what happened when I stopped paddling upstream with my video classes? A miracle. Okay, not exactly a miracle, but it was something so super cool that I am just amazed at what the Universe dropped into my lap out of the clear blue sky. Here it is ...

I am officially the new Editor of ABetterMeMagazine.com. Okay, I know you're thinking, "Hey, that's great Carol, but what does that have to do with video classes?" Well, I'm glad you asked. I will tell you. 

Since I am the Editor, I can do anything I want with the site (for the most part). And one of those things will be video classes. And do you know what that means? Yep. No more being at the mercy of other sites approving or not approving my videos. Don't get me wrong, I'm not going to produce garbage, but I now have the freedom and control that I always wanted to have over my videos. 

But it's not just about the videos. I'm mostly just super excited about this opportunity because I have so many BIG plans for the site! Here are just a few highlights:

1. I will be hosting a video web show called A Better Me TV. I will interview all sorts of people - both experts and regular people - who will help viewers become a better person and be happier.

2. I am in the process of developing an Expert Network. I am hand-chosing ROCK STAR experts to help everyone in their journey to become better.

3. A Marketplace - lots of books, audios, coaching and much, much more!

4. Free webinars!

5. Video Classes!

I could go on and on, but these are just some of the exciting things that will be coming up in the near future.

So, I invite you all to come join me on ABetterMeMagazine.com. We're going to have a great time helping each other learn and grow and become BETTER. Oh, and come 'like' us on Facebook too. Click here to do that. :)

Meanwhile, I want you to look at your life and see where you are paddling upstream. What are you fighting for - or against - that is just not working out? Once you figure it out, I suggest that you turn your boat around, too. Every time I have done that in my life, it always works out a million times better.

Have a great week, and BON VOYAGE! :)

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