You might be a bit confused by the title of this blog. No, I’m not quoting myself. I’m quoting my 10-year-old son. He came home from school about a week ago and spoke those exact words to me. But before I explain more, let me back up a few days and tell you what happened.
A couple of days before that, when he walked off the bus and through the front door, he immediately reached in his pocket and pulled out a bunch of crumpled pieces of paper and handed them to me and said, “I got notes…” And my heart stopped for a minute thinking that they’re notes from his teachers, or principal or something else bad had happened. I’m not even sure why I thought this because he is my “easy” kid. He’s a bit of a “Type-A Personality” and is very competitive, so he always does the “right thing.”
But I admit that I still had a big sigh of relief when I realized they were just “love notes” from three different girls. However, I have to admit to thinking, “Oh my! How times have changed since I was a kid! I was super afraid to call a boy and ask him to a turn-a-bout dance in high school!” Apparently, these days, girls are pretty aggressive. That makes me feel old.
But I digress…
So I knew there were several girls who liked him. And after a while, he decided he liked Valeria (not her real name) the best. However, an amusing side-note is that she always runs away from him when he tries to talk to her. He even chases after her saying, “Hey!!! Talk to me!!!” Maybe I should retract my earlier statement about girls being so aggressive…
Anyway, so a few days after that, he came home and said that one of his friends told Valeria that he liked her. At least that’s what he thought he was doing. But his friend came back and said, “She said yes!” And my son was confused, because he didn’t ask the friend to ask Valeria to be his girlfriend. Hence, the “I didn’t know it, but apparently I have a girlfriend now…” title of this blog.
I tell you this story to lead me to the lesson of this blog (as usual). I hope you had some good chuckles reading this, because to us adults, this is all super cute. However, it still represents a phenomenon that even adults are guilty of …
Going where the wind blows you.
Letting life take you where it wants to instead of you being the captain of your own ship.
I know so many people who do this. Are you one of them? Are you in the driver’s seat and the captain of your own vessel, or do you just drift aimlessly and can’t figure out how you got where you are or how to change directions?
My son didn’t actively choose to have a girlfriend. He simply drifted into it. I know that’s quite comical (trust me, I’ve had many, many laughs over it!). I mean, who does that, right?! But nonetheless, it’s true.
So don’t be like my son … have a plan. Actively choose what happens to you. And then have the discipline to stay the course.
Okay, that’s it for this week. I wonder what I’m going to do now … I have no plans … I hope someone will tell me what to do soon … (you know I always have to end with a little joke!) :)
Have a great week! :)
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